The Fix-It Mom

As parents, it hurts to see our kids or grandkids go through difficulties, doesn’t it? And if you’re like me, you’d like to fix all their problems. Kiss it and make it better like we did when they were small.

And when life hits with really tough trials like unemployment, poor health, marital problems, or divorce, it all really weighs me down. Everything starts seeming negative and hopeless. Even after praying and praying. And I long to snap my fingers, find the right answers, and fix it all.

I try to be the Fix-it Mom.

Until the Lord reminds me that it’s not my place to fix it – but his. So forgive me, Lord, for wanting to be the Fix-it Mom…

So Lord forgive me for wanting to:

1. Prevent their hard times.

I will never be able to keep my kids and grandkids from having to go through hard times.

Help us remember that you use hardship to build their faith and trust in you.

2. Provide all their needs.

Help me see that you use times of need to teach gratitude, contentment, and patience.

3. Always trying to bail them out.

Help me realize that you want to teach them important lessons like diligence, responsibility, or living within their means.

4. Fix all their problems.

Help me keep in mind that you use trials and troubles to mold them and make them more like Christ.

And forgive me for not trusting you enough with my loved ones. Help me to trust them to your more than capable care.

We are not called to be fix-it parents.

Sure, it’s good to help our loved ones in times of trial and difficulty. But the best help we can give them is to place them in God’s loving care. He is still on the throne and working on their behalf. So why should we worry and fret? Let’s stop trying to be fix-it parents!

We are not called to be fix-it parents, but to entrust our loved ones to God’s everlasting care.

Image credits: Mother-son portrait | Boy kissing mother.

Author: Signora Sheila

American born, Italian at heart. In Italy 30+ years. I'm glad you're here and hope you'll join my journey!

4 thoughts on “The Fix-It Mom”

  1. Boy, did you nail this one. Especially in light of wanting to protect those we love from pain and disappointment. The Lord wants us to learn how to move through those with Him! Nobody gets a pass. Thanks, my friend, for your wise insights.


    1. Thank you Dayle. Fully placing our loved ones (kids especially) in God’s loving care sure is hard. But I’m learning that if we were able to protect them in the way we’d like, they would not grow or know God as well as HE would like. God will be with them in all things!


    1. Yes they are, Mimi. But it’s so hard to let go. I mean, we spend at least 18 years caring for them, leading, guiding, and being responsible for them. Letting go is not easy. But God can care for them so much better than we ever could! They are in safe hands!

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