Parents, Be Careful What You Allow

What we do and say leaves a much greater legacy than we can even imagine, both for good or for bad…

John Wesley said, “What one generation tolerates, the next generation will embrace.” He was referring to sin. And we see this played out in history repeatedly. But I’d like to look at it from a different angle. 

Kids continually listen, watch, and mimic us adults. And they often follow the examples they’ve been shown. Kids from violent homes are more likely to become violent. Children of alcoholics have a greater chance of having the same problem.

Importance of the home atmosphere

The atmospere in which a child is raised is so important. It tends to rub off on them. So if we raise a child in a critical, judgmental, or gossipy atmosphere, how is he or she likely to turn out?

I saw this played out in my daughter’s family. Not the gossip and criticism. But the way they subtly pick up on things. Our grandchildren often used words, as they say, far too big for them. They learned from their parents and older siblings.

Most assuredly we all want to raise loving kids. Children who care about others and treat them with kindness. Respectful and nice to have around. Well, it’s like Wesley said, “What one generation tolerates, the next generation will embrace.”

The next generation

But it’s also true that what one generation embraces, the next might embrace even more.

SO WHAT IF… we applied ourselves more wholeheartedly to loving as Christ did?

WHAT IF… we learned to give up our rights, not reacting angrily or vindictively when wronged or slighted?

WHAT IF… we prayed and read God’s Word with more zeal than we give to our jobs and hobbies?

WHAT IF… we concentrated more on using our finances for God’s work — helping the poor, the widows and orphans, and spreading the Good News?

WHAT IF… we tamed our tongues and attitudes to the point that gentleness became an automatic response?

WHAT IF… we became known everywhere for showing love, mercy, and patience — even to those with whom we disagree?

WHAT IF… others started seeing us as people who don’t merely preach — but practice what they believe?

WHAT IF… we hungered and thirsted so much for justice, righteousness, and purity of heart and soul that it turned our lives upside down?

Possibly even causing us to move to a poor neighborhood just to help the needy. Or fixing up our spare room for an unwed mom. Or downsizing homes so we can give more to helping others.

What one generation truly embraces, the next will embrace even more.

What one generation embraces, the next might embrace even more.

Children do follow example, for good or for bad. So as parents, grandparents, or anyone who is involved with them, let’s be careful what we do and say. Kids are eating it up, and will likely put it into action.

What we do and say leaves a much greater legacy than we can even imagine!

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6 WEB

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25 replies on “Parents, Be Careful What You Allow”

Oh my Linda, I can only imagine the heartbreaking situations you glimpse. But I praise the Lord that you are there with the kids, working hard to make an impact. Know that I uphold you and the camp in my prayers. Keep on with the good work!!


You’ve given us high goals to achieve for the sake of our children. But the result will be worth it, when they exemplify the godly behavior we’ve tried to model and teach during their growing years. You’re so right: We grandparents must share in the responsibility too!


You’re so right, Nancy, it is a high bar for parents and all who work with kids, including us grandparents. And one which I realize we can never fully achieve. Yet with the Lord’s help we can at least grow closer and closer to it – knowing that even a little progress can make a big difference. May the Lord help us day by day!


I agree Mrs. Sheila and I love this post. Sometimes, children will see what adults do and will mimic them.

But like you said, we need to whether as parents or as siblings, we need to make sure that the next generation doesn’t repeat the same mistakes.

I think that John Wesley quote fits well with the scripture in Proverbs.

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Wonderful post Sheila. I think you have just found the solution to all of the violence going on in the US. What I’ve heard of this latest school shooting is that this young man was shunned his classmates. No one really reached out to him and he was a loner. If I had applied what you said I doubt this would have happened. I doubt it would have happened in any of the shootings going on.

Be blessed

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