Longing for Home: Do we Miss it Enough?

Sometimes after a long time away, I find myself longing for home. (HOME. Isn’t that a beautiful word?) And although always greatly appreciative of the hospitality we’re offered, as miles and days pass my longing for home steadily increases. Even when visiting family and friends we don’t often get to see.

“Home” is an interesting word, and one which doesn’t exist in every language. Every nation and language has a word for house, basically a structure of some type which offers pysical shelter. But home is so much more. Home is a place for the heart.

What makes home so important?

Just what makes HOME such a special and important place? Answers to this would likely differ as much those giving them. But I believe they would also vary according to the different places we call home. Because for most of us, our hearts have more than one dwelling place.

When I think of our simple summer home in Italy’s southern mountains, thoughts of cozy evenings by a winter’s fire come to mind. Or hot summer afternoons lounging with a good book. Along with a nostalgic wistfulness and a pining for the loved ones who shared it. Whereas home here in our main village means relaxed afternoons on our porch swing, soaking in our beautiful, peaceful view – when we find the time.

Extended trips always reconfirm that for me home is these places. And when away I long for familiar things. Shops where I know the owners and coffee bars where I feel welcomed. My weary older body yearns for my own bed and soft feather pillow. And my soul for the calm order of my minimalist home and bathroom bidet.

I miss the freedom to stay in PJ’s all day long. To get or stay up as early or late as I wish. The freedom to eat what or when I want. And, as an INFJ (introvert), to sit quietly for long periods without speech or interaction.

And the times I’ve traveled without Hubby made me miss him and home all the more. It was home because I knew he awaited me there.

“Home is where the heart is” is not just a cute saying. Home is familiar things, beloved people, and a sense of belonging. And one of the things our heart most yearns after, because the need for home is deeply embedded within the human heart.

How much do we miss our heavenly home?

Ever since sin separated us from God, his Spirit draws us back to our heart’s only true home, nestled within his heart. Making our spirit yearn for the home we lost. For our eternal dwelling place in him. Back into the presence of the only One who can truly fill our deep need of home and belonging.

But do we miss our heavenly home as much as we should?

The need for home and belonging is deeply embedded in the human heart – because God’s presence is the only place where our hearts will ever feel truly and fully at home.

Why John chapter 14 resonates

This temporal earthly home is filled with trouble and worry, and we often face painful separations. Which is one reason for why the first four verses of John chapter 14 resonate so deeply in our hearts.

The Lord has gone to prepare us a better place. Where painful farewells will be a thing of the past. Where we’ll never again need to say goodbye.

Don’t let your heart be troubled. Believe in God. Believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many homes. If it weren’t so, I would have told you. I am going to prepare a place for you. If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and will receive you to myself; that where I am, you may be there also.

John 14:1-3 WEB

So how can we not be homesick?

How can we not long for the One who awaits us there?

We sometimes get a little too comfortable in my earthly home. We seek for a sense of belonging and satisfaction here, and of course never truly finding it. Then our hearts become troubled and we wonder why. When all we have to do is stay close to Christ and keep seeking that city which is to come, where our heart will be at home forever.

How homesick are you? And how deep in your heart is the need for your heavenly home?

If we really think that home is elsewhere and that this life is a “wandering to find home,” why should we not look forward to the arrival?

C.S. Lewis

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Author: Signora Sheila

American born, Italian at heart. In Italy 30+ years. I'm glad you're here and hope you'll join my journey!

10 thoughts on “Longing for Home: Do we Miss it Enough?”

  1. Loved reading this again. And I just caught that you’re an INFJ–which is why I love what you write because I’m an ENFP! If we lived in the same town, I’d probably drive you crazy with my words! Thanks for a refreshing reminder of how much we need to recognize that this place isn’t home–but home is definitely where our hearts should be. With Jesus.


    1. Aha, Dayle, just another similarity between us. I wonder if we’re really some kind of secret sisters… long lost or something. I wish you did live next door. Your words would be a precious delight! I already have Hubby as an ESFJ with plenty of words, and a sister in Christ next door who is also an extrovert. As long as I can carve out my times of needed solitude I’m fine!! And one day we will be Home, all together, forever and ever!

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  2. When we’re finally united with our Heavenly Father in heaven, we’ll surely wonder how we ever felt at home on earth at all (IF we remember our experience here). I firmly believe that statement in your tweet, “God’s presence is the only place where our hearts will ever feel truly and fully at home.”


    1. Once again, Nancy, you present us with a precious nugget. “We’ll surely wonder how we ever felt at home on earth at all…” The things and places God provides for us here are wonderful and precious gifts – but nothing can compare to the glory prepared for us there!!


  3. I was just this week feeling homesick for heaven. Oh to be where my Savior lives, to look into those eyes and know how much I am loved. Thanking God for the blessing of life on earth, and for the promise of my eternal home. Thank you for your beautiful post.


    1. I hear you, Connie! Lately I’ve really been homesick to go Home. Home is such a beautiful and special place – but there will never be a place like our eternal Home. “Oh I long to see him, Look upon his face, There to sing forever of his saving grace…” May the Lord hasten that day!!


  4. What a beautiful message! We call this earth our home, but our true home is with Him. I pray that I always remember my home with Him is coming and He is waiting with open arms.


  5. This isn’t our home! As much as we try to make it comfy and inviting, this home will always disappoint because as much as it meets heart needs, it will never meet our true soul needs. Thanks for this, Sheila. Well written!


    1. Thanks Dayle! I was actually surprised at the degree of homesickness that engulfed me. It was hard, until I realized that God was reminding that nowhere on this earth can truly be home!!


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